im having an issue with hosting/joining games for aoe2 sometimes im able to join or host a game but the majority of the time i cant do either and when i try an error will pop up and it would basically say to install patchs or something about the anticheat so i click for solutions and it says everything is good so im lost on how to fix this problem and i need help

Can you please attach a screenshot of the error here?

From which source did you get your game?